Become Happier in 7 Easy Steps
Let's face it. Sometimes the things we view as what it takes to be a “success” aren't really the things that make us happy…
The thing is, to really be a success in life: You need to fulfill your life's purpose. And, yes, that means doing what makes you happy – even if it's just in your “off hours.”
But how on earth are you supposed to know what would make you happy? Or what the heck your life's purpose is? These are HUGE questions! And they likely have equally huge answers. Well, the first step is to…
Step One: Foster Self-Awareness
How well do you really know yourself?
Sure, you spend 24-hours a day with yourself, but do you really know yourself?
If things are not going well for you or you are finding it difficult to take your life or business to the next level the answer may lie within you.
Before you waste thousands of hours – or spend thousands of dollars! – making external changes to your life and career, it may be worth it to take time out and look inward. I know. Pretty scary. But you may be surprised at what you discover!
Step Two: Kick Low Self-Esteem in the Butt
If you're suffering from impostor syndrome, a lack of confidence, or low self-esteem – it's time to kick it in the butt.
A lot of “successful” people (especially women) have suffered from one or all of these things, but they managed to “make it” anyway. Because they found a way to work through it.
You write the script for your life. Do you want it to say “but they were never truly happy because they held themselves back”? Or do you want your story to read “after a long struggle with self-doubt, she finally did what it took to be truly happy.” The choice is truly yours to make.
Step Three: Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
I love my comfort zone. I'm often happiest when I'm sitting in front of my PC, vaping and playing a video game. If I could, I'd probably do that all day every day. But would I truly be happy? Maybe for a little while, but, ultimately, no.
I step out of my comfort zone every time I sit down to write one of these articles. But I do it because it needs to be done. It's my way of contributing something to the world (that hopefully at least some of you enjoy) and validating my existence as a human being. It's what makes my life worthwhile. And, in the end, it's what makes me happiest.
You have to step out of your comfort zone from time to time in order to be happy. If you're on the lookout for a potential partner, you're going to have to leave the comfort of your own home to meet them. If you're looking for a new job, you're going to have to do the uncomfortable thing and apply for said job.
The nice thing is: Your comfort zone will always be there for you to return to after you're done being awesome. (Yeah, I'm totally going to go back to PC gaming as soon as I'm done writing this).
Step Four: Surround Yourself with Support
No friends are better than bad friends. But you know what's even better than having no friends? Having great friends.
Surround yourself with friends and family members who support you and your quest for happiness – they'll help you find your way there more quickly.
Step Five: Stay Positive
Staying positive is a great way to find your path to happiness. Because if you aren't optimistic about something as elusive as true happiness, then you probably won't find it.
A lot of finding that path has to do with your attitude and willingness to look for it – even in the most unexpected of places.
Step Six: Stop Apologizing
Some of us (me!) feel selfish when they do things for themselves, especially things they know will make them truly happy. Well, it's time to stop apologizing and do what you gotta do. You do deserve to be happy, I promise.
Take a moment to reflect on everything that you've brought into your life thus far and celebrate your successes. You're a wonderful, talented, beautiful person and working to find your happiness will ultimately make those around you happier too – not selfish at all, really!
Step Seven: GET TO WORK
Going after your happiness isn't an easy task. And it won't just fall out of the sky onto your lap as you sit around daydreaming.
You have to actively seek out what would make you happiest in life.
Once you figure out what that is: GO AFTER IT!
Here's to your lifelong happiness! *raises glass* I wish you the very best.