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FRANKLY SPEAKING: Stop Giving Stress Full Control Over Your Life!

by Lauren Tharp
by Lauren Tharp

Feeling stressed out is a lot like getting attacked by a vampire. It creeps up on you, sucks the life essence from your body, and leaves you drained – leaving you quite literally feeling like the living dead.

Stress can DESTROY you, regardless of whether you are a man or woman.

We all know that intense feeling that everything that could possibly go wrong in your life IS going wrong, and things will never get better. Negative thoughts fill your head and it’s almost as if you are stuck in the bottom of a pit with no way out.

I’m here to help you get out of that darn hole. Here are three ways that YOU can fight back and stop the cycle of persistent stress once and for all.

Appreciate the POSTIVE Things in Life

One thing we all need to work on is showing appreciation for the positive things in our lives.

Far too often we fixate on stressful situations and people, and forget about all of the GOOD life has to offer.

Everyone has things and people that they should be grateful for in their day-to-day lives. Think about your friend that decided to text you to see how you are feeling. Realize that someone cares about you so much that they went out of their way to talk to YOU. Think about the cute “meow” or “chirp” your kitty gives you when you get home after a long day at work. They missed you, and they LOVE you.

Aside from relationships, there are also basic things that we all take for granted:

  • Did you sleep in a warm bed last night?
  • Were you able to eat a hot delicious meal at the end of the day?
  • Do you have a job and clean clothes to wear?

Many, many people don’t have these simple luxuries that we all take for granted

Appreciate all of the great things in your life. Everything has value, and we have to stop overlooking the obvious.


If you are the kind of person who gets stressed and/or depressed and goes into hiding, you’re not alone. Plenty of people have this issue. They feel “defeated” and sit in silence.

I’ll tell you this from first-hand experience: Silence magnifies your stress.

Your problems will only become amplified and you’ll get to the point where you can hardly breathe because you allowed your mind to “lose control” and take over your life.

Instead of worrying about the things that are stressing you out, why not try to do something that you enjoy? Go hang out with your friends, go get your favorite coffee from Starbucks, buy a new outfit that makes you feel beautiful, play with your pets, and the list goes on. We all have different interests and things that make us smile and forget our problems.

When you feel that vampiric stress creeping up on you, get up, and go have some fun. Don’t let the stress settle in. If you do, you’re only going to feel worse!

Controllable and Uncontrollable: Know the Difference

You need to learn the difference between controllable situations and uncontrollable situations in your day to day life. Learning the difference and “training” your brain to recognize what you are stressing over can slice your stress in half.

Basically, every single situation in your life can be categorized into two groups: There are things that you have control over, and things that you don’t.

Do not, I repeat, DO NOT, stress yourself out about things that you have zero control over.

For example, if your job is laying people off, don’t fill your head up with “what if” questions if NOTHING has happened to you. You have no control over the decision of the business owner. For all you know, you might not even be a possibility of someone they are going to lay off.

On the other hand, if they go through with it and you find out that you have been laid off, you still don’t need to “stress” because this is now a CONTROLLABLE situation.

Instead of worrying about all of the bad things that could happen, worry about SOLUTIONS. Go put in applications, meet new people, and be persistent. If you put the work in and ooze positivity, you’ll have a new job before you even have time to stress!

In essence, uncontrollable situations are not worth stressing over because you can’t do anything to change the outcome.

Controllable situations are not worth stressing over because thinking about SOLUTIONS rather than CONSEQUENCES will retrain your brain to solve the problem stressing you out instead of dwelling on it.

Sure, we are all going to feel “stressed out” from time to time. But hopefully, these tips will help significantly reduce the stress in your life.

It’s YOUR life and you deserve to be happy. Don’t let stress drain you of all of the amazing things and people around you. You’re better than that, and don’t you ever forget it!