It is a story that may sound all too familiar to many people. You meet the person who, you are certain, is “the one”. Everything about that person seems near perfect, however, for whatever reason, things do not pan out in the way you want. The “happily-ever after” never manifests, and it would appear to be a cruel twist of fate to have met your soulmate at the wrong time.
Even if it was not a proper or long relationship, it still felt real. And once it was over, out of all the relationships, it becomes the one that is just that much harder for them to walk away from. It stings a bit more and takes longer to get over. It could take months, years or perhaps never.
But here is the truth. That person who you thought was perfect and everything you wanted was not “the one”.
The reality is that if he or she was truly “the one”, it would have worked out because you both would have wanted it badly enough to fight for it – irrespective of what the odds were. The fact that things ended meant that one of you was not ready to give the commitment that was needed to make it work.
There is a story of an Indian man who fell in love with a Swedish woman. He promised to find her in Sweden before she left India. Yet after a year, he still had not saved enough for the plane ticket since he was poor and from the lowest caste. Determined to see her again, he made a decision to sell everything he owned to buy a bicycle. It took him four months and three weeks of cycling 4,000 miles across Afghanistan, Iran, Turkey, Bulgaria, Yugoslavia, Germany, Austria, and Denmark to finally be re-united with her again in Sweden. They have been happily married for over 40-years.
Some may say that their story should have never succeeded because the odds were against them. But meeting “the one” means that you both have the courage to work together to overcome the challenges – even they seem impossible.
So if you are convincing yourself that the relationship did not work out simply because you met your soulmate at the wrong time, more than likely, the truth is that person was not “the one”.
That might sound harsh and it may even be hard to come to terms with. But life is complicated and there is never actually an “ideal time” to meet the right person. Perhaps you are busy with studies, work is stressful or your personal life is falling apart. It is rare for anyone to have a moment in life where everything is “just perfect”. So even if you are going through your own problems at the time, when the right one comes along, you will both find a way to make it work – because you would both equally want it to.
When you do meet “the one”, you will realise that there is no such thing as meeting your soulmate at the wrong time. And by then, you would have discovered someone so much more deserving of you.
Be sure to read my article on the warning signs of a sociopath, if you suspect you are or might have been dating one!